In life, there are many times when we find ourselves stuck, unmotivated and lost in the midst of everything. When you experience this, life can be pretty miserable, difficult to understand and forging ahead or moving on with life will seem impossible. More so, there are several reasons why you might be feeling lost and unmotivated like this, but most times it is due to stress and anxiety associated with what the future holds for you.
Thoughts about what to do with our relationships, the promising careers that has now become stunted, how to respond to family changes, conflict, and crisis amongst many other reasons are why we get stuck in life. However, when you recognise that you are feeling lost and unmotivated in life, it is very important for you to tune in to yourself and seek help to get back on the right path.
BELOW ARE 6 SELF-HELP TIPS ON HOW YOU CAN GET STARTED WHEN YOU ARE STUCK.
#1. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR FEELING
When you are ready to get started, the first help to avail yourself is to pay attention to your feelings. As simple and easy as this might sound, identifying with our true feelings is very important because getting stuck and feeling unmotivated about life is actually a feeling and not a fact. To move forward and get unstuck, you have to examine how you are feeling, why you are feeling the way you feel, and the appropriate response to your feeling. This step entails looking inwardly rather than outwardly.
#2. EXAMINE YOUR THOUGHTS
For you to get started again with your life when you are feeling stuck and unmotivated has a lot to do with the type of thoughts you occupy your mind with. Your beliefs and perceptions about yourself and the associated feelings are all products of your thoughts. Your thoughts design your world, and you have to realign your thoughts for you to forge ahead with your life.
Therefore, this step is about dealing with your mind and the thoughts that flow through it. Remember this, the thoughts that occupy your mind influence how you perceive and interpret the world around you and your individual circumstance.
#3. BE INQUISITIVE ABOUT YOURSELF
This is your life, and you are responsible for it. Another essential self-help tip for you to get started on time when you are stuck in life is by asking questions. And you have got to be curious about your life, this you will do by asking profound questions about yourself.
For instance, questions such as what is responsible for this lack of motivation? Is it due to stress, anxiety, or depression? How and what can you do to overcome these feelings? What is one achievable thing you can do to take the first step in the positive direction? Are you stuck because you are making excuses rather than taking the necessary actions?
It is important to get down to the root of lost feeling by questioning it appropriately. This tip is all about learning to be introspective; that is being able to look inside yourself to assess your thoughts and feelings in a non-judgemental way.
#4. CONFIDE IN PEOPLE YOU TRUST
Whatever the reason for your loss of motivation learn to share them with people that you trust. You don’t have to wallow in it until you are depressed. The fact is once you open up and confide in people whom you trust, you are opening the door for new possibilities to enter your life. Since no one hasn’t at any point lost sight of his vision or clarity, it is evident that your trusted friends will be more than willing to see you out of your rut once you confide in them. Remember that nobody has that power to read your mind and that your friends might be unaware of your current situation until you confide in them.
#5. SEEK INSPIRATION
Another self-help tip to increase your motivation in life is to seek inspiration. This is an active process that can boost your energy and create positive feelings that will affect all areas of your life. Instead of remaining in the state of loneliness and self-pity, slowly involve yourself in activities where you can find inspiration. For example, join associations where members inspire and spur one another into becoming a better version of themselves. By doing this, you will get the needed help out of the stress that will encourage you to get started with your life once more. If you want new inspiration, it is important stop looking for it in the same place.
#6. BE ACCOUNTABLE
Your willingness to answer to outcomes of your choices, actions, and behaviours is another important self-help tip that can help you get going when you are stuck. You can track your growth out of this unmotivated state by being accountable to someone you respect. Allow this person to keep close tabs on you and regularly monitor your progress. This type of feedback goes a long way in helping you quickly find yourself out of being stuck.
In conclusion, it is important for you to understand that when you are feeling stuck in life, you are usually not as stuck as you believe you are. More importantly, developing the correct understanding of how to handle the different stresses in life will lead to you getting less stuck and more motivated about life.
About the Author
Michael Assiamah, MSW, RSW
Registered Social Worker, Psychotherapist
When he is not helping people sort out personal problems, he is a self development and lifestyle enthusiast. Michael Assiamah is the founder and CEO of Support & Growth, a mental health and wellness service that specializes in supporting diverse individuals, children, youth, families, seniors, groups and vulnerable populations throughout Ontario. Michael holds a Masters of Social Worker Degree and an Honors Bachelor of Arts Degree in Psychology both from the University of Windsor.